Posted by Nadezda on January 2, 2010, at 14:35:55
In reply to Re: All I wanted for Christmas » rnny, posted by Verloren on January 2, 2010, at 13:47:23
From what I've read, maybe the key to feeling better about her not hugging you, really is to feel more sure that she really cares.
The caring, and your certainty about it, and its presence for you, will grow over time, too. That's what happened between me and my T. For a long time, I couldn't feel between sessions that he was even there-- and it took much longer to feel that he cared, and to feel it especially when there was nobody (including him) to reassure me. It could be that some of your low self-esteem comes from not knowing or being able to feel another caring person's constant presence, whether they are or aren't physically present. That's something that you might have to work on and will find very helpful over time.
You'll probably always want sometimes to hug her-- but it does get a lot lot better. To the point, where I never think about it-- or only on rare occasions. I wouldn't have believed I could ever get to this point, so even if it feels impossible, it can happen.
I'm sorry you're sad about it, though.
Willful
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