Posted by lingonberry on December 16, 2009, at 11:01:19
In reply to met with the T after rage fantasy, posted by deerock on December 15, 2009, at 21:01:50
Hi Deerock,
From Barbara Woods book Children of alcoholsim: "According to Winnicot a clients resistance or acting out always means that the analyst has made a mistake or in some detail has behaved badly and that the resistance will remain until the analyst discover the error."
That is not what happens here. It looks like you have to sort things out on your own. Your T is the one that should help you, by trying to interpret whats going on inside of you and show you how this situation probably is a "mirror of the original environmental failure situation" with your mom.
... Winnicot also warned that "the T who defend himself against the clients anger deprives a client the opportunity for being angry at a past failure just were anger was becoming possible for the first time.
My T acts like a T with great confidence, calmness and understanding and has never defended himself against me, no matter what I have said to him. He always gives me right in the middle of a throe. Probably because he know its not the right time trying to make se what Im doing. As long as Im in denial he just wait for my denial to crack. So, I think you need to talk about your T ability to hold your anger, thats one of the reasons you are in therapy.
Lingonberry
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