Posted by deerock on December 16, 2009, at 8:09:39
In reply to Re: met with the T after rage fantasy, posted by Helana on December 16, 2009, at 7:44:31
Helana,
I like what you wrote. It put into words my confusion and I am still confused.
I expressed the fantasy, calmly. She broke into tears. This crossed her ability to absorb my anger. She said it brought her to her threshold of what she is able to tolerate.
The following session, she showed up late. I was still angry. This time I said "why the hell are you late???" I was angry at her directly. I did not know that it was my anger after telling the fantasy that toppled her, not the fantasy itself. And she told me she was late because of how difficult our previous session was. And I went on...like "oh, so youre f*ck*d up just like my mother. i make you made and you punish me by being late..youre so f*ck*d up." and she basically threw me out at that point.
I think it was brazen behavior from her perspective. She said that since I pushed her to the edge and just ignored it and kept on getting angry, it made her feel she was no longer able to work with me.
So i have no idea. should she have allowed me to act that way or did i cross a line? i dont know whats supposed to happen in therapy and what these people are supposed to put up with. did i act something out and she should not have gotten in my way?
poster:deerock
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