Posted by Dinah on October 16, 2009, at 8:37:41
In reply to Re: Ok, he doesn't » Dinah, posted by workinprogress on October 15, 2009, at 0:57:04
Sometimes my therapist and I have a session, or group of sessions, that really reaches me, and changes my life. Of course, my therapist says it really isn't *just* that session. It's all the sessions that led up to it. One session so enormously helped with my issues about sex that I no longer count it as a "major" issue in my life, after an entire adult lifetime when it really really was.
I won't say I suddenly like my reflection in the mirror, or would allow anyone to take my photo. But... I think yesterday I was able to look in the mirror and see a bit less distorted vision of myself than usual. Maybe I saw a bit of physical features that don't look like my mother, but are pure me. The fact that all of them aren't good differences doesn't matter a bit. :)
I'm also feeling a bit encouraged to try again to lose weight.
And if I probe that spot within, the shame over my feelings about my appearance feels less sore. And as you likely know, there are really two aspects to nearly all issues. The actual issue, and the overlay of shame and secrecy or anger or fear. I am struck with how useful therapy can be for at least the latter aspect. And when we're lucky, the former as well.
Now that I trust him enough to speak in complete openness of spirit.
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