Posted by LadyBug on July 13, 2009, at 20:04:13
In reply to Re: The update, posted by TherapyGirl on July 13, 2009, at 17:54:04
ThearpyGirl-
I feel for what you're going through. I can totally relate to what's happening to you.I suffered through my T's retirement last December. In March of 08 we suffered a major rupture in our work. I won't go into my story because it takes too long. I've never been so hurt by someone in my whole life. We worked together for almost 12 years. She was my lifeline helping me through a lot of stuff.
Anyway, after she hurt me, she left for 3 weeks. I saw her when she got back and one time after that. I took a break thinking I'd never go back. She changed directions on me just as your T has done to you. She stopped responding to me in the ways she always had done. She never took ownership to hurting me. So I stopped going.In July, I got this formal letter from her in the mail announcing her retirement. She added she would be available to see me if I needed to see her. It kinda shocked me that she was retiring. It took me until November to decide what I should do. But I went back for 4 or 5 visits. I was sad she was leaving. I loved her and needed her. Things went as well as they could have. We had a positive ending so I'm glad I went back.
I know how you feel, with me our work ended before I was ready. But she changed on me too. I believe retirement becomes their MAIN focus. It's sad because we have to deal with it too. I chose not to see anyone else. No way did I want to get back into being so attached to someone only to have to say goodbye again. There's nothing I can compare the loss of my T. I cried for weeks. It does get easier with time but I MISS HER like crazy sometimes. It's been so hard. I don't have contact with her. I guess that's best because our work is done.
I'm thinking about you. You will get through this! I'm sorry things are so dang complicated. I don't think you will get her back in the ways she's always been for you. She's moving on in her life and unfortunately it spills over into her work. We as patients, suffer so much because of it. It just plain sucks to the highest degree!
I was so grateful for my babble friends as no one else could even begin to understand my situation.
HANG IN THERE! Keep posting. We'll help you through.
LadyBug
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