Posted by raisinb on May 29, 2009, at 20:25:53
In reply to Re: here's the message she left » raisinb, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2009, at 18:23:00
"It seems odd to me that she would genuinely not want to be with you so soon after a session that was wonderful."
That's the problem. This is a common pattern for us. We have an intense connection one session--where she's warm and caring--then the next one she turns into a block of ice. It's mind-boggling. My sneaking suspicion is that she cannot handle the connection with me and the feelings it brings up in her, so she freaks out and withdraws the next time. I could be wrong.
The factual stuff is a good idea. I'll try it.
I'll be f**ked if I call her, though. After so much rejection, my self-respect would take a serious blow if I did that. Not to mention I think "I'll assume everything is fine" is absurd under the circumstances. I am considering just not showing on Monday. What she does or doesn't assume is not my problem, and assuming that things are "fine" is either her being completely asinine or disturbingly dishonest.
poster:raisinb
thread:898180
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