Posted by Kath on April 10, 2009, at 16:45:37
In reply to My T just dropped me today.. like it was nothing., posted by Kenya on April 10, 2009, at 1:29:59
Hi Kenya,
I'm really sorry about your pain. I am really glad that the Universe, or God, or Whatever/Whoever is taking care of you by getting you the heck out of that therapist's clutches.
Your T sounds at best, rude & unprofessional, at worst downright dangerous (that could push some people to do harm to themself).
Kenya, I say don't subject yourself to her again. I suggest that you make a list of how you would like her to have been - or the kind of goodbye you would have liked, then get someone you really TRUST & do a 'playacting' of the final appointment. I an totally serious here.
Once when I was seeing a therapist years ago, I told her there were so many things I wished I'd said to my Mom, when she was dying of cancer. My therapist said if I wanted, she'd 'be' my Mom & I could say what I wished I'd said.
So she WAS. I even went & hugged her & said, "Mom I'm SO SO SAD you're dying" & stuff like that. I my T was so kind & so good.
I urge you to get someone safe to do the goodbye. I do not think your therapist is capable of positive, nurturing interaction with you. I have no earthly idea HOW she became a therapist & it is totally terrifying to me to think that there are those type of T's out there.
It's excellent that you didn't get a referral from HER!!!!!!!!!!!
I suggest doing a "meeting each other" session with any prospective therapist to see how you both 'click' with each other. The T could even outline how they work or what types of therapy they offer & what a session might look like!!!
We get estimates for such things as having a lane paved, or a roof repaired. Surely we deserve to check out the professional regarding our mental health.
I am SO angry with your T & sorry you had to go through this.
Love & support, Kath
(Sorry, but I get pretty opinionated when I see someone treated badly.)
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