Posted by desolationrower on March 22, 2009, at 18:41:13
In reply to Re: How do you process anger? » garnet71, posted by Kath on March 22, 2009, at 11:45:00
i don't think it is the 'anger' necessarily that one keeps; it is the perceived social relationship or insult or whatever. the anger is the habit that is still occuring. one can change it; thats what vengence or reconciliation is for, alerting the underlying relationship. Forgiveness/understanding/contextualising (probably with a mix of empathy/pity) is probably more emotional work, but usually the 'right' approach - changing the habit we have in how we react to the negative event to use more positive emotionality. strong emotions don't go away easily, but they go faster if there is postive counter to teh negative.
I think the process is rather well described in some religions: praying for your enemies; metta meditation. i am still trying to work out how it can apply for internalizing disorders; its to require something a bit different.
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