Posted by Kath on March 22, 2009, at 11:45:00
In reply to How do you process anger?, posted by garnet71 on March 21, 2009, at 11:55:28
Hi Garnet,
I'm just recently learning about all the 'past stuff coming forward'.
I'm often really surprised at what pops into my head if I'm feeling upset & ask myself, "When have I felt like this before?"
A doctor who I go to who does energy work says something about - when we get upset by things now, as adults, usually the things resonate with things that have happened to us up to the age 5.
Maybe it's something like if something happened at age 4 that someone raised their voice in a certain way at me & I was scared, that for the rest of my life, if a person raised their voice in that way at me I'd be scared. AND if my friend had never had that happen as a kid, her response to someone raising their voice like that at her would NOT upset her.
I must say that the Little Girl Garnet was one smart little cookie! How wonderfully ingeneous (sp?) to take the screen out, make herself comfy & wish on the stars. It makes me think of a magic-child.
I tend to use 'alternative' type methods to heal my core stuff. I've found TAT extremely useful in healing past trauma WITHOUT having to re-experience the trauma. There's a website:
www.tatlife.com that explains about it. if you ever want to ask me about it, I'm here for ya. Either here at PB or by babblemail.
I've also used very physical methods to deal with anger. But I'm tending now towards gentler ways. If you want some good, powerful ways, just ask me.
One thing I've found good in the past is to write letters. My Dad was already dead & I had unfinished stuff. So a therapist years ago told me to write to him. I did, saying all the things I needed to...lots of tears of anger during the writing. I put the letter in an envelope, sealed it & decided to actually put it in a mailbox. And even though he was dead, all I could put on the envelope was his first initial!! I found that weird.
Anyway, it really dealt with the anger I had.
hugs to ya, Kath
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