Posted by wittgensteinz on February 18, 2009, at 7:45:44
In reply to Re: Update » SLS, posted by yellowbird01 on February 17, 2009, at 17:47:35
Yellowbird,
I'm sorry you're going through this difficult time and I think it was courageous of you to reach out for support here. The simple fact is that this IS something very painful and difficult. It will involve adjusting your life - almost every aspect of it - to living without him. Grief and adjustment take time and are hard for even the most healthiest of people.
I have to say I feel a tad angry that your T has jumped on your reactions as an opportunity to point out your pathology. Nothing of what you have written, in my opinion, pertains to BPD. Breakups are universally painful but for people who meet the criteria for BPD this will be all the more difficult - I think whatever criteria you meet and by any standards you are coping admirably. Don't deny your feelings - you need to live them and get as much support as possible. I would like to ask your T what she exactly would do if she were in your situation? In her perception, where does the normal response meet the abnormal? I would also ask her how she sees you - does she see you first and foremost as a person, as Yellowbird, or does she find it safer to see you as a label? If the later is the case, then it might have something to do with her own issues.
I read an article on this the other day - if I get a chance I'll see if I can find an on-line version - it might be helpful.
Take care ((((Yellowbird)))
Witti
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