Posted by yellowbird01 on February 16, 2009, at 20:34:35
In reply to Re: asking for support, coping skills (very long) » yellowbird01, posted by SLS on February 16, 2009, at 9:22:12
Wow.. this is very helpful and makes a lot of sense. Thank you. I have read through your post several times. It's hard to allow myself decide to no longer pursue a life with him, as you said.. but that's really the bottom line to all of this. It's also exactly what makes it so hard. Letting go of everything I hoped, all the plans we had... letting it all go forever. Ouch. But the one thing he did give me was a clear statement that he doesnt want me anymore.. so really, nothing else (my hopes, dreams for us) matter. I can second guess his motives, his true feelings, whatever all day long but even if he DOES love me... it doesnt matter. He doesnt want to be with me. And why would I want someone who was willing to throw me away because of the possibility of getting hurt?
I'm doing pretty well today. Probably evident in what I've written today as compared to the weekend. One day at a time. I go see my therapist tomorrow and I'm looking forward to that.
I dont think my response gives your post justice as I got a lot more out of it that I'm able to put into words or understand right now. Thank you.
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