Posted by lucie lu on February 11, 2009, at 16:43:28
In reply to Therapist retired but we still are in contact., posted by Freudiannic on February 10, 2009, at 18:06:13
I hate to raise this, Freudiannic, but could your T be having memory problems?
I once had a mentor that I loved like a father, and we had a very strong bond. I was the last of his students and he was winding up his long career (he was in his early 70s). He gave me a favorite book of his, and then a couple of months later asked me if he had loaned it to me because he wanted to give it to someone. He had completely forgotten that he had given it to me. I didn't really mind about the book, but that incident forced me to acknowledge his advancing age and declining memory.
Could your T have forgotten (1) that he had told you not to worry about the 2005 bills, and (2) that he had arranged to webcam you at that particular time? People who have forgotten things, particularly if they are in denial or defensive about their memories or even in early stages of dementia (my father had Alzheimer's so I know about that), can get very testy if they are called on their apparent memory lapses.
I don't want to arouse your anxieties unnecessarily, but feel that you really need to consider that possibility. That's why I had asked if this was new behavior or whether he had always been like this.
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