Posted by seldomseen on January 4, 2009, at 10:39:21
In reply to Optimal Frustration, posted by DAisym on January 1, 2009, at 23:56:58
If this is the "optimal frustration", I think it is shared between your mother and your therapist. I don't think you are transferring anger at your mom to your therapist, but are perhaps coming to terms with the fact that neither relationship is satisfying your needs. Obviously, the relationship with your therapist comes closest, but, as you indicated, still falls short.
However, IMO, what IS so good about the therapeutic relationship is that you always will have a place there. Having read about your relationship with your T over these past years, I am quite confident that he will keep you close as long as you want to have him there.
Are you lonely Daisy? If so, then perhaps that is a good sign. Maybe it indicates that you are ready to begin looking for more mutual relationships.
Rather than heralding the loss of the therapeutic relationship, I tend to think that these more mutal relationships are a natural outgrowth and extension of it.
The safety and intimacy of your relationship with your T will always be there.
Seldom.
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