Posted by raisinb on January 2, 2009, at 18:23:35
In reply to Optimal Frustration, posted by DAisym on January 1, 2009, at 23:56:58
It took me a long time to realize that whenever I felt extremely attached in that painful-longing-sad sort of way, I got angry soon after. Usually I construct reasons for this (she doesn't say this..this...this...she doesn't hug me...she doesn't call enough...etc.) Even longer to realize that even when these things were fixed or I realized I didn't want them or couldn't handle them or felt ambivalent about them, I came up with other things. I think I like being angry better. It's not rational; I usually don't have any "justifiable" reason. But sometimes it helps me to think of anger as just a coping mechanism, not a response to an actual or perceived insult or deprivation. Even though those happen too. If that makes any sense at all! :)
poster:raisinb
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