Posted by antigua3 on December 27, 2008, at 1:17:26
In reply to Re: I'm not going to be confused! » DAisym, posted by antigua3 on December 27, 2008, at 0:45:29
I've never cared if I've gotten angry at my pdoc, or what he thought about me being angry at him, unless he thought it was unjustified and then, yes, we've "discussed" it and dealt with it. He doesn't care if I'm angry at him; he has made that clear. And I really don't care if I get angry at him. That has been the pattern of my negative transference.
So there's a dilemma here. Does he have to provoke the anger, or is it just going to spill out? No, it's not going to spill out on its own. There has to be a target. Can we just skip the transference and have the anger directed where it should be: to my father, and I guess my mother to a lesser extent. To repeat what I've always said, I've never been able to truly express the anger that I feel toward my father. I've suffused it with love, even though as I write this I see this more clearly than I ever have. but it is still unexpressed anger and the scale has to be balanced. Or does it, really?
back to being confused, but clearer nonetheless,
antigua
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