Posted by lucie lu on December 22, 2008, at 19:02:34
In reply to Thank you my supporters, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 22, 2008, at 10:58:15
Hi 4S/HF,
I am glad that you are posting again. It is good to see you on the board. I think that most of us (including the deputies), have had a lot of genuine sympathy and caring responses for you since you are obviously going through a very difficult time. You have gone through a lot, unquestionably. Many of us have had very painful, difficult, dysfunctional, if not abusive childhoods that we are trying to work through, and there is no way that one can ignore the pain of someone else who is going through what we have experienced (past or present). In addition, your terrible situation with your previous T, and his egregious actions, is something we have all been witness to on this board. And you have been injured profoundly from his blatant boundary violations. I personally would like to see him "disbarred" from practicing. I think that this is still a major source of pain for you, and you have loads of support and empathy from people on the board. If you feel you need more, please feel free to ask -I think I can speak for others that we all want you to be able to move on from the pain that jerk put you through. And in terms of the childhood abuse issues, we do understand and it may take a long time to work through those too.
I think what the deputies may be suggesting is not to be reductionist or polarizing, through verbal expression, about what has happened on Babble in connection with your situation. It did stimulate a controversy, and I can imagine the temptation you might feel (as I might, honestly) to "praise" one side over the other for their "loyalty" to your cause. But the controversy, particularly on the admin board, expanded beyond your particular situation, HF. And one could be on one side or the the other, so to speak, and both still be supporting you personally. I think that's important for you to keep in mind, that the desire to support you was not divisive here. Not at all.
So I think that what is being suggested here is that if we do not form groups over what has happened, that would leave us *all* free to simply support you, HF, which is clearly what you need right now and what we would like to provide. It's as simple as that.
I hope this helps. I do welcome you back, 4S/HF, and want to help to ease your pain. I also hope you change your name again - I find the "slugs" part of your new name hard to relate to you; HF was more in keeping.
All the best,
Lucie
poster:lucie lu
thread:870259
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20081219/msgs/870340.html