Posted by antigua3 on December 20, 2008, at 10:38:21
In reply to Re: Now this when I get myself into trouble...., posted by Wittgensteinz on December 20, 2008, at 6:26:42
Witti, I would never think you're pathetic. Plus, I never knew you were so young, which maybe has a bit to do with it. So, I'm sorry; I shouldn't have stepped on your idealism; that wasn't a very nice thing to do. :)
In my eyes, you have made incredible progress, especially given your age.
Using your example of your mother, I can see your argument. It fits for your experience. My pdoc says all the time that the abuse I suffered is just a part of who I am, but there is no way to seprate it out from the wholeness, in a good way, of who I have become. But my situation is different.
I really struggled with using the word "evil" to describe my father. "Extremely cruel" is probably a better descrip. But for me, it's so hard to see past the few good parts to see the whole man, and that is certainly not a pretty picture. So, in a way, it's the flip side of what you're talking about, and I understand that.
Pls don't let what I said discourage you. You are doing great work. And try not to compare yourself with the patient in the book. You can't compare because you are a different person with a different history. Try not to make yourself feel as this somehow makes you inadequate. You're not.
I'm sorry that I jumped on what you said because I have always had a deep respect for what you write.
antigua
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