Posted by Suedehead on November 13, 2008, at 20:24:51
In reply to Re: Going to therapy when sick--Update » Suedehead, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2008, at 19:49:19
No, I hadn't mentioned the sexualization at all, but it wasn't weird when he brought it up. Actually, I kind of appreciated it. Right after his initial disclosure, I told him that I was worried that in the future he'd act like he'd never said anything (out of embarrassment or shame or self-protection), and that I really needed him to continue to acknowledge what had been said in order to feel like our respective experiences of the relationship matched up in some way. I guess it's a matter of wanting to feel some sense of shared reality. Anyway, since then, he has been really good about bringing up attraction-related issues. We both agree that they need to be discussed, but I am often too shy to bring them up myself. Admittedly, there's an element of seductiveness in his initiating the discussions--but this is something that is also acknowledged and worked through.
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