Posted by Sigismund on October 24, 2008, at 2:41:10
In reply to Re: Pain is part of life, but suffering is a choic, posted by JouezMoi on October 23, 2008, at 17:34:42
To allow?
Near the end of this thread I realised I was confused by this suffering thing.
I'd thought that (yes) suffering was a choice, not in the sense of choosing to feel bad but suffering in the sense of allowing (as in 'suffer the little children to come unto me') and therefore not resisting pain and in that way avoiding making it worse.
(In that sense, referring to Link's thread on the main board, I think suffering and beauty are connected.)
(Since so many people mention difficult relations with their mothers, I can say that in my case a simple change of heart caused a 180 degree about turn in our relations before she died. It took a tragedy to make it happen, but it all hinged on a willingness to reach out, which she did and I was able to reciprocate. In the last 2 years of her life we were very close.)
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