Posted by lucie lu on October 16, 2008, at 11:08:10
In reply to Re: For Jay, Turtle, FMD + others -- LOOOONG!, posted by Suedehead on October 15, 2008, at 18:23:21
> Thank for for posting this. I've only been seeing my T since April, so we're in the beginning stages of our relationship, for sure. I think that I skipped straight to the 'intense' phase, as that's typically how I operate in relationships, but it's nice to think of a time in the future when we'll have settled down a little--when I will have really learned to trust him and to be more secure in my attachment. What you said about feeling like you and your T are becoming friends now really moved me. I hope that I experience that with mine someday.
Suede,
From what I've read on babble, people start from a lot of different places. For me, I had major trust issues and those had to be worked through before I could use the therapeutic relationship at all. Those were my stages 1 and 2 - the real "meat" started at 3 for me too. At the other end of the spectrum, some people skip all of my steps 1-5 and start right at 6! These are people who feel pretty together already, may not have significant problems with relationships, but maybe come to therapy to work on a particular problem or issue in their everyday lives. Something I can only aspire to ;-) Maybe that will be my stage 7! (lol)Your ability to form such a close attachment with your T will probably help to leap-frog you into a good place from which to explore the issues that brought you into therapy. I really look forward to hearing about your journey too and hope you will share it with us.
Best,
Lucie
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