Posted by lucie lu on October 16, 2008, at 10:47:49
In reply to Re: For Jay, Turtle, FMD + others -- LOOOONG!, posted by JayMac on October 15, 2008, at 17:01:02
> Wow. Thank you for all of that. What a journey!!! What a continuous adventure as well.
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> Your post made me cry because it reminds me that there is hope. Although my time with my T is in its early stages, I have hope in her ability and my ability to make therapy work for me. I'm slowly learning how to attach to her, identify with her, and let her help me in the way she believes is best. It's comforting for me to know that other people have successful relationships with their T and that it has helped them become successful with other people as well.
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> Therapy brings adventure to all of us: as we are not born with the inclination that we must seek therapy, we are born with the inclination to form relationships.
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> Our therapists allow us to first know, and then to experience the truths of our past, present, and future.
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> We may not be the "patient" in his/her office forever, but forever may we be patient with ourselves. Forever may we be striving to know ourselves and experience ourselves as relational beings. Forever my we be seeking the truth.
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> I don't mean to be too deep here. I feel touched and inclined to share what little I know.
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> Peace to You!
> Hugs and Love,
> JayMac
>Jay, I am glad that the "hope message" came through because that's what I most wanted to convey. Those almost unbearable longings really do change into something more tolerable.
What I hear in your post sounds like what my T has called the ability to "make use of the relationship." You are incredibly motivated and honest, Jay, and you have a lot of courage! That is clear from your posts, and I really admire those qualities in you. You seem to be forming a really strong bond with your T, who sounds terrific BTW. It sounds to me that you are ideally set up to work through the problems relating to your mother, as you've described in other posts. Speaking of which, I hope that you will be patient and forgiving of yourself when the inevitable misteps and falls happen on the way. Sort of like getting back onto the horse after you've fallen off. You can learn a lot from those "mistakes."
Hugs and love to you too!
Lucie
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