Posted by rskontos on October 5, 2008, at 19:52:44
In reply to Bad place, bad place (miscarriage TMI) + LONG, posted by FindingMyDesire on October 5, 2008, at 4:24:17
Mydesire,
I think you are dealing with several issues on several levels and this miscarriage brought them all to the forefront. An attachment issue that you would like your T to fill, the worry over people leaving, the desire to not be vulnerable, and then the miscarriage itself. Each of these things alone is overwhelming. Add them together and you get well something that seems impossible. And I think that no matter who is with you right now you will feel alone. Some things you just have to go through alone. Grief is one of them. It helps to have people to express that grief with and to grieve with but it is by definition a lonely process.
And I am sure this is something that will forever change you. You are also anger at the loss of this child, and you wish your T could be the parent and fix it. She can't but it would be nice if she could make all the bad stuff go away.I am truly sorry you are hurting. Know this, we are here for you. Thanks for sharing. We are here while you grieve.
I do believe you should share how you feel, both the anger and the hurt. She should be able as a professional help you will all of it. Dont try to be the perfect client. I tried that too. I told my T I was trying that. It helped to share that. I don't think you are feeling it because she isn't there, it is I think because you want someone else to ease the hurt and that is ok. It is what we all would want.
Take care of yourself. Share your feelings however you can, and how you need to.
(((((((Findingmydesire))))))))
we are here for too.
rsk
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