Posted by lemonaide on October 2, 2008, at 17:18:37
In reply to Re: My T had the secretary call me, instead of him » lemonaide, posted by Partlycloudy on October 2, 2008, at 8:31:09
Hi PC,
I hope I have the same experiences working with female T's as you do. My first T I paid him and he made appointments, my 2nd T has a secretary, now this one I pay directly. I can see benefits to both, actually.
She believes in gut feelings, and believes I have a strong instinct that has kept me safe for a long time. She also knows what I meant by spiritual connection with my old T.
We talked about other times males in my life when I was around 16-18 didn't follow boundaries with me. One was a guy who I gave his daughter trumpet lessons. She looked like Shirley Temple, she was so cute. I started to hang out with her and her family (her parents were divorced but lived together ) Well she became like my younger sister and we had a lot of fun for about 2 years. Well when I turned 18, and she moved out of state with her mom while her dad stayed in town, her father called me to meet with me. I didn't think anything of it, I thought maybe he wanted to plan a birthday party with her or something. Well he meet me in the park,and confessed his love for me. He was twice my age, and I wasn't interested at all, I was on way to college, etc. Well needless to say it caused any contact with my little sister awkward. Eventually I had to end the relationship with her. I still grieve that loss today. I have tried to look her up and had no luck. But that is just how someone in my life messed up something good I had. It is hard to trust people when they keep letting you down.
She said she isn't a traditional T, sooooo, I think it will be interesting. I hope this works because I am about ready to give up on therapy forever.
So when my relationship with my first T went personal, (when he should have known better)it devastated me. Well she made this connection to the loss I feel about my last 2 T's to my past where I had males take advantage of me. So I guess I have trust issues with both sexes it seems. But it was an awesome connection nobody else made with me.
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