Posted by seldomseen on September 22, 2008, at 6:50:03
In reply to Re: Missing Shell?, posted by turtle on September 21, 2008, at 21:51:41
My experience with my therapist and need was a somewhat painful experience. It got all wrapped up in transference. It was a period a sadness, anger and frustration. It also was tainted with a pronounced fear of him just abandoning me with all these feelings.
Somedays I would just let the fantasy "win", only to eventually "face plant" in the therapeutic boundary. Other days I denied it was even there.
But I kept on talking and talking and talking and it turned out to be a very very productive time for me in therapy. I learned what my therapist would and wouldn't be. Most importantly I learned what I truly wanted him to be.
Someone who would go through all of the crap with me. Someone who was a medical professional and could clinically evaluate the state I was in and take action if needed. Someone who I didn't have to fight against.
It took a while, but my best advice is to keep talking, keep poking out of your shell. Your therapist, it sounds like, will hold the fort.
Seldom
poster:seldomseen
thread:853181
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080920/msgs/853379.html