Posted by Dinah on September 16, 2008, at 18:25:04
In reply to Re: I have no idea (long) » Dinah, posted by Nadezda on September 16, 2008, at 16:20:01
I think Abbie may have a good idea. Expressing not only how you might feel about it, but how outsiders might see it, might jumpstart a discussion about what he's intending to do vs. what he's actually doing.
If you think reading the actual posts might be counterproductive, maybe summarizing it or suggesting how it might be seen from an objective viewpoint might be a gentler challenge to him.
You are taking too much responsibility for this, you know. Even if all you say is true, and you aren't being overly negative about yourself, he's responsible for his own reactions.
I'm not going to urge you to leave him. If you aren't ready to consider that I respect that. If you have considered it, and feel there are more reasons to stay than to go, I respect that too. There have been times when what I have written here make even me think I should leave. Then I feel guilty and ashamed for not leaving. So far we've always worked it out. Because both of us were willing to work to do that. I really hope that whatever you do, that you'll find a way to be kind to yourself.
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