Posted by Daisym on July 12, 2008, at 0:15:00
In reply to Re: Confusion with understanding feelings » Dinah, posted by sunnydays on July 11, 2008, at 21:36:48
I'm getting better at holding more than one feeling at a time and being able to verbalize them...but frequently I wail, "but I DON'T want to be upset about this (or afraid, or sad or whatever)." I find I'm still wishing for what I believe to be the "correct" emotion - like my reactions are either right or wrong.
Not only did I grow up being told how I feel or what my reality was, but I learned to scan and monitor everyone else so I think my feelings were never my own - they were everyone else's. I tell my therapist that I wish he had a ticker tape on his forehead so I could "read" him better. He tells me I read him too well already. Do you ever wonder if your feelings are the correct feelings?
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