Posted by seldomseen on May 3, 2008, at 7:41:36
In reply to Being Hurt, posted by Daisym on May 2, 2008, at 22:26:03
I'm so sorry that you got hurt on your vacation. Being hurt sucks for so many reasons.
One of them, as you indicated, is that, without your permission, the world gets to see that you are having a tough go of it.
It flies directly into conflict with everything we've been taught and learned to do. It's hard to say "I'm fine" when you're clearly (and visibly) not. I certainly understand that conflict.
But I would point out that people are responding to you with offers to help. While that may make us uncomfortable as well, people certainly aren't just ignoring what you are going through, but are offering to come to your aid. Do you think their offers are genuine?
I think sometimes its not about what the world wants to see about us, but what we want to show the world.
I'm learning the world is a pretty resilient place. It can absorb all kinds of anger, sadness and hurt without being really freaked out or put upon. I struggle with this too, and unfortunately routinely beg for my therapist's forgivness for being such a burden.
I would like to stop that and accept the help that, as a human being, I am entitled to.
Your physical wounds will heal, and maybe this would be a good time to directly address the emotion wounds of feeling like a burden and showing the world what is going on with you.
I pretty confident that your therapist would want to know what is going on with you and would want to be let in.
Seldom.
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