Posted by raisinb on April 29, 2008, at 13:14:21
In reply to Advice, please?, posted by backseatdriver on April 29, 2008, at 3:36:38
Hi BSD,
Welcome and yes, you are definitely in the right place.This is a tough situation. It's difficult to know how your therapist feels--and, if he's good at his job, you will not ever know. What's most important is that you have a safe space to explore all the possible meanings of your feelings. Part of it is that you aren't satisfied in your marriage, but usually intense erotic feelings have many more dimensions, too, and it takes a lot of time to work through all those meanings and how they relate to the rest of your life. Your therapist's job is to help you with that. He may or may not feel the same way, but in the end it's not important how he feels. It's how you feel and how you use that to understand yourself and your life more completely.
Since you just admitted this to your therapist, it is hard to see how he will handle this. Best advice, I think, is to wait and see if feeling this way, and exploring it with him, is helping you or not.
Best wishes. This can be really hard but very rewarding, too.
poster:raisinb
thread:826200
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080423/msgs/826266.html