Posted by backseatdriver on April 29, 2008, at 3:36:38
Hi,
I'm still new here, I think. But everything I've read in this forum makes me think I'm in the right place. I need a little wisdom.
I started therapy in January with a psychiatrist. He does meds (for my depression) and psychotherapy, generally psychodynamic. Last week, we had an intense session where we finally admitted a very eroticized transference, meaning mine, into the room.
At times I believe he feels the same way. I asked him. He looked at his feet and refused to answer.
Today we debriefed on last time. He said that I had a right to passion in my life (my biggest problem is a rather passionless marriage) but insisted that, given that I can't leave my marriage because I've got a small child, this passion was probably best pursued in fantasy.
Then he blushed and looked at his feet again.
The way I'm telling this story, obviously, it makes me think the guy's not just talking about *my* fantasies. At the same time, he made sure to project a lot of firm boundaries today. I felt disconnected from him, like I couldn't access his unconscious the way I could last time.
Anyone else have this experience? What comes next? Forgive me for sounding so very amoral; I'm suffocating in my marriage, basically.
Thanks,
BSD
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