Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2008, at 18:37:26
In reply to it's the little things..., posted by twinleaf on April 26, 2008, at 18:06:48
Wow, Twinleaf. I do have to say I think you handled that very well. And I'm glad you were ok with it.
If my therapist ever gets physically aroused around me, I hope he takes steps to make sure I don't know it. I am sure he never would. Apart from my looks, he sees me as a therapee/daughter.
He's aware I do frequently get physically aroused, and he's also aware it's nothing personal. I always get physically aroused when I'm anxious, and it's an annoying physical wire crossing for me. He thinks it's interesting physiologically, and has some familiarity with the phenomenon having done a lot of debriefing sort of stuff.
Yet strangely, if the reverse were true, I'm not sure I could ever feel safe around him again. Even if it were nothing personal. My personal issues, I'm sure.
But he wouldn't.
I think, given that he must have known you knew, he handled it well. And so did you. You were very very brave to talk about that.
(I've told him about the only two sexual dreams I ever had about him. In one I discovered from his wife that he was a eunuch. In the other one he was impotent and I held his limp penis in my mouth. That one I told with my face literally buried in my lap and my hair pulled over what was visible of my face I was so embarassed. Neither was anything that he would find arousing.)
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