Posted by raisinb on April 21, 2008, at 20:56:32
In reply to I have to wonder..., posted by LadyBug on April 21, 2008, at 17:25:07
LB, this is a really tough situation. Ideally, the best thing to do is to work it out, especially in a long-term relationship. But you are hurt, and you're scared of further hurt, which is understandable because it does not sound as if your therapist is on your side at the moment. Instead, it sounds like she's letting her own feelings/issues get in the way. So you, understandably, want a response, some reassurance from her, before you open yourself up again.
I don't know what the best thing do to is. I've been similar situations before with my therapist and I still don't know if I've done the right thing by sticking with her. I know I've reaped many amazing things from this relationship--but could another one have been better? Maybe.
I guess for what it's worth, I think it is very important to take care of yourself during such a difficult time. I know this is easier said than done, but try not to worry about what she does right now. If in time, she can correct herself and be on your side again, it has to be something she does. You're not responsible for what she does and doesn't choose to do, and you don't have to worry so much about whether you go or not, whether you call or not, because those little things won't make or break the success of the relationship. Just try to be good to yourself.
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