Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 16, 2008, at 8:17:29
In reply to Re: I LIED to my T...Very Bizarre Situation » sassyfrancesca, posted by Happyflower on April 15, 2008, at 19:48:49
> Hi Sassy gurl,...Hi, "twin"
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> I hate that this has caused you so much torment, your T should feel guilty, because he is. I believe he DOES feel guilty, that is why he said what he did. I also know i am colluding with his little game.
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> You have told me a lot of what has gone on, and your T has crossed numerous boundaries, and what I hate about it is, that I feel like it will hurt you so badly in the end. I know it feels exciting, because you love him, but he is hurting you in unbelievable ways. You know it.> My T didn't cross boundaries the ways yours has, but the hurt I feel because of it, well I am not sure if I will ever be able to let it go. It hurts equal to the parental abuse I received as a kid.
I understand that, too....that was my experience...abused as a child and then in 31 years of marriage, and then......abused by a church and kicked out. Does the abandonment ever cease!!??
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> What sucks, is that he probably does have feelings for you, Yes, i believe he IS in love with me; years ago, he said: "Isn't it enough that I LOVE you??!!"I am sure of it from what you have told me, but he is married and he will probably protect his life first, his job and his marriage before he will give it all up to be with you. Even if he wishes he could be with you, I have a feeling he will protect himself first. Of course. Oh....he also had said: "You are just trying to make me lose my license." What a hoot. I have done NOTHING...NOTHING...he has done it ALL.
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> I choose not to sue my T, because it won't help me any, and cost a fortune and time away from my life. I agree...he deserves it, but you deserve to not be put through any more pain.You situation, there is NO doubt what he has done has crossed several boundaries with you, and he drags you along with his fantasies. Oh, yes...he is safe to do that.
> I really feel so sad for what he has done to you, your spirit. You deserve so much better as a T, and as a life companion. Thankyou my dear friend. If I could only find another man to love, but it has been 3 years of being alone and I have found no one yet.
> I still love my old T, but I have lost all respect for him for what he did to me, and I feel I deserve much better than he can give me, as a T, or anything else for that matter. You are right.
> I just hate it when clients get hurt because of T's. (((((((sassy))))))) Take care of yourself, doll.
Thank you my dear sweet "twin"
Did I tell you there is a website for people like us? It is a yahoo site: "A Most Heartbreaking Love" Some great understanding and support there.
Love and hugs, Sassy
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