Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 15, 2008, at 13:30:30
I hate to lie, but felt I needed to do it to protect myself (been in love with him for 5 years; too much stuff to go into here).
We both went to the American Counseling Association's convention, and were both alone (I didn't know where he was staying), and didn't call him until the end of the convention. I try to keep my own boundaries, not wanting to be hurt.
He said he was looking for me at the dance for a half an hour, and also looking for me on the plane. He said he saw me FIVE different times but didn't speak (he follows SOME ethics, LOL); he thought I was angry with him, and that is why I didn't acknowledge him; I didn't SEE him!
Then he tells me he would have "danced with me"......someone explain how it wouldn't be okay to say hello but it WOULD be okay to DANCE with a client?!
What did I lie about? He said "Have I ever come on to you, or made you think I was available?" When this comes to an end (I had never mentioned an "end"), I don't want you to have to say: "You led me on you b*****d."
So, is he feeling guilty, and wanting me to help him feel better by saying he HASN'T done.....what he (and I know) he HAS done?
He wants me to collude with him. I am not ready to leave him, and when I am he will hear my speech I have had for a long time.
Basically....how much I resent him "having his cake and eating it too." He is married....I cannot help loving him, but I can (and have) managed to not cross any boundaries......
crazy-making behavior for sure.
Sassy
I hope no one will criticize me, but if anyone has been where I have, and can understand this insanity, some support would be lovely.
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