Posted by raisinb on April 10, 2008, at 9:14:45
In reply to How to open up in therapy?, posted by estrellita on April 9, 2008, at 23:30:50
I've spent three years having that problem with my therapist. There have been sessions I've refused to say anything but monosyllables, and sessions I've refused to answer anything she asks. We've talked endlessly about why I can't talk, and I agree with Dinah--that's how you get through it.
It does seem as though this is a trust issue. Your therapist should be able to work on trust issues with you; that's part of the reason we go to therapy (many of us, at least).
Try not to judge or be frustrated with yourself. You're doing exactly what your job is in therapy--let all your issues come out. Your therapist has to figure out how to work with them. I forget where I read it, but I have a quote in mind: "it's really the therapist's job to help the client enter into a relationship of emotional intimacy." Not to say that it's all his responsibility--you still have to do the work--but he should be able to help you through this block.
Talk to him about not being able to talk. I'm sure these feelings are coming up for a reason. Tell him exactly what you wrote--that you see no reason to trust him, and see where you get from there.
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