Posted by Annierose on April 10, 2008, at 6:02:15
In reply to How to open up in therapy?, posted by estrellita on April 9, 2008, at 23:30:50
It's curious that you only give yourself two choices --- continue with this therapist or never ever going to therapy again.
But yes, I have experienced this sort of feeling. I have worked with my therapist for many years. There was a year where I grew very quiet. I was trying to feel comfortable in her office, so I would just focus on my breathing and not much else. Of course, I would say something, but not what was really important. One day my therapist became impatient and in my opinion woke me up from my meditative state. I don't remember much what was said now, but I recall being scared. I learned that instead of trying to undo the uncomfortable feelings I needed to share and put into words what that uncomfortable feeling felt like.
The more I shared, the more I was able to open up to her.
Trusting your emotional self to a therapist can be scary and can take a long time to develop. Maybe there is a part of you that doesn't trust this therapist or is testing him. Instead of trying to talk about stuff, try to talk about what is going through your mind as you do not talk. That is where I started.
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