Posted by annierose on March 2, 2008, at 12:23:52
In reply to To annierose + raisinb, posted by seldomseen on March 2, 2008, at 8:56:23
I understand what you are saying. I did want to add one more thought. I do think the feelings flow both ways. It's just our relationship to our therapist holds more space in our brain than they hold for us. It's not that they don't think about us or care about us, their importance to our lives weighs more. It has to be that way in order for the therapy to work. Otherwise their feelings for us would hinder the process rather than help us get through tough spots.
It sounds like you are hard on yourself. It's okay to have these feelings. It shows that you are open to experiencing intimacy with another person. That is all good and healthly.
For me, I find accepting my loving feelings for my therapist easier, I think, because she is a woman. I love her but not "in love" with her. If I saw an attractive therapist in my age range, I think it would be hard for me too.
I am glad you are going to your appointment. It's always better to keep the dialogue open.
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