Posted by MissK on February 20, 2008, at 19:14:16
In reply to Jumping in with Trepidation (LONG!), posted by mair on February 19, 2008, at 11:32:55
Just wanted to say I thought your post was great Mair. And Cecilia's too.
I know this discussion may have felt like an attack on those who choose or need to do therapy for umpteem years and caused defenses to go up.
In very simple terms, I saw Hermitian asking how is it the therapist --and he does put the emphasis on the therapist --does not encourage a termination or, as he said, exit strategy --and for that matter why do we as clients don't do the same thing. He asks the question is it not stringing the client along to offer what may seem no guidance on closing the past (after it's been discussed at great length and the salient connections and understandings have been made) and providing a way to live in the present and move forward and leave therapy behind.
It poses an interesting question, one I may ask my T about. I would ask her straight: does a T ever set out at a certain time to encourage the client to terminate therapy. In my experience so far, I don't think my particular T would ever tell me X I think you are done doing therapy and I think we should talk about you leaving therapy. She would, however, allow me to bring it up whenever I wanted and would work with me on accomplishing the goal.
I guess we have to ask ourselves is it the therapist's job to get you off of therapy or is it your own? I think it is both if that is the client's objective.
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