Posted by Daisym on February 18, 2008, at 23:42:00
In reply to this type of discussion, never seems to go well..., posted by obsidian on February 18, 2008, at 21:54:33
Well said.
I think Dinah tried to say that too when she suggested talking about the positives of your favorite type of therapy instead of the negatives of someone else's type.
I have teenagers. Often they say to me, "I don't understand" when what they really mean is, "I disagree." I usually point this out to them and offer to explain any decision I've made, if they are really interested in understanding. I also tell them that if they want to disagree, that is OK too. But I'd rather not go through all my reasons if we'd be better off just agreeing that we already disagree and neither of us are likely to change our minds. That way we have honesty, respect and less conflict overall.
It works most of the time.
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