Posted by twinleaf on February 12, 2008, at 18:44:17
In reply to Re: What happens when you don't want to talk? » twinleaf, posted by rskontos on February 12, 2008, at 7:26:52
What goes on in my hours really does have a humorous side, and it's great when we can both step aside for a moment and laugh together a bit. Those times don't happen too often, though.
A lot of what is hard for me is that I feel so much shame about a lot of things, and I blame myself for things which happened to me when I was very young. I of course "know" that this is not the correct thing to do, but since I can't help doing it, I need to re-experience all of those feelings- this time with him. I have already found that he is great in offering me genuine new healthier experiences around these painful issues. Still, with each new memory or topic, I have to find out all over again that he is nonjudgemental and safe and can help. As time goes on, though, I find that I'm building up a memory bank of good experiences with him, and that does make the work easier. The fact that he is witty at crucial times, and is also so good at keeping me in his mind every moment has also created a good frame within which we can work.
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