Posted by raisinb on February 12, 2008, at 12:13:45
In reply to What happens when you don't want to talk?, posted by twinleaf on February 12, 2008, at 0:20:02
I had to grin at both of your posts, because so much of my therapy revolves around just this issue. I spend so much time trying to control what I open up, negotiating the right balance between revealing and concealing.
My T has real trouble letting things go. If I say I don't want to talk about something, fall silent, whatever, it's almost a guarantee that she'll keep trying to get at whatever it is. I love and hate that quality about her.
I am sooo ambivalent--I WANT her to push me to open up, to get at what I'm hiding, because partly that feels like caring. That she really wants the real me. At the same time it feels like she's NOT taking care of me by making me feel bad.
And talking about "why" you can't talk--yes, that's a trap! Usually when I go down that road, I've revealed so much that I might as well have told her in the first place.
It's tough.
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