Posted by Dinah on November 4, 2007, at 23:23:34
In reply to Re: Thanks Everybody - Follow-up » Dinah, posted by JoniS on November 4, 2007, at 23:07:11
I guess that last part was the part I was wondering about.
I think I asked because during Katrina it was impossible to keep self disclosure out of the therapy relationship. There were just too many tangible changes to be able to avoid looking at what was going on.
And while in some ways it was almost reassuring to not wonder what was going on, and blow it up into something even worse in my mind, there were negative aspects as well. I don't think I'll ever be able to think of him as being as magic as I did before, in the sense of thinking that I could always feel safe when I was with him. I guess that could be seen as a positive thing. But I don't really.
So I know it can be a mixture of positive and negative to learn things.
And it can be really hard to put the genie back in the bottle. I think Muffled sounds like she's doing a good job with that. It's hard though to go back to a one sided relationship.
I hope everything goes well with him, and that he's able to come back to you whole and well. And that you'll be able to stop worrying about him enough to focus on yourself. Which is why therapy works as it does. If it was more mutual like friendship, it wouldn't work.
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