Posted by JoniS on November 1, 2007, at 8:53:17
I am obsessing about my T. WHATS NEW???
He has been a little distant the last few months. He is going on sebbatical soon and he first gave me the impression all the hours he puts in was taking it's toll. As I've benn worried that he wont come back, he has now assured me he will. Yesterday he told my daughter in therapy that "it is not because of the job that he is taking the sebbatical. It's personal"
My daughter said he was not wearing his wedding ring. She is concerned about him. I am really concerned about him. I don't know why I am so obsessed about this and why his marriage status is so important to me. I don't want to see his marriage breakup, and I'm not delusional about stepping into her space if they breakup. But he does represent a lot of things to me that I don't have with my husband. My T's specialty is marriage and family counseling. That is mostly what I see him for. I really wish I could quit obsessing about this. I know the need for boundaries in the client-T relationship, but I also don't believe it is realistic that a T's personal life can be completely out of the T relationship. I've been under the impression that a lot of you here are so close to your T that they might still tell you more about their situation but still keep adequate boundaries. Should I just try and tell myself that it's his personal business and I just need to stop thinking about it? Last night I dreamed that I went to therapy and that he had his wife in there too. She was on his lap and he was reaching up her top and doing things way inappropriate. How strange is that?Joni
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