Posted by raisinb on October 31, 2007, at 12:17:03
In reply to Re: Blurting -- trigger » Daisym, posted by RealMe on October 31, 2007, at 1:32:04
Hi Daisy,
I'm don't know if this applies to how you're feeling or not, but I've felt like that often, and I DO say nasty things to my T (I've said "f*ck you" and "shut up," even, and criticized her more times than I can count).
It's usually because I expect so much from the relationship--I expect her to say something brilliant or perfectly understanding--and she says something completely obvious, and I hate how inadequate she is. Also, if she *has* to ask obvious questions in the first place, then it means that she doesn't know how I feel inside, and that's lonely and distancing. I think to myself, shouldn't I be *helped* here, made to feel safe and happy, rather than working so hard to reach some distant, puzzled, inadequate authority? How do I bridge that gulf, and why is it my job?
But then, that's me, of course :)
poster:raisinb
thread:792390
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