Posted by DAisym on October 26, 2007, at 20:42:32
In reply to Re: therapy tomorrow; will take the risk head-on, posted by rskontos on October 26, 2007, at 9:26:11
I hope it went well today. Knowing what you've said about your therapist, I'm sure he handled your feelings with respect and care.
These discussions are really important, I think we learn a lot about ourselves from them. And I think it is important to recognize that this isn't just a one time, blurt-it-out-and-you're-done kind of thing. Telling him how you feel, and asking how he feels, is an evolving discussion.
Recently I was talking with my therapist about my feelings and he mentioned a time when I thought I was in love with him. I asked him if he had expectations that this had changed - was I supposed to stop loving him at some point? He said no, that wasn't what he meant nor wanted. He was trying to point out how hard it was for me to tell him that and yet I did and we talked all about it. So the new shift in my feelings should be open to discussion with some trust in our history of talking things over together.
Even with the trust - it is still excruciatingly hard. But it deepens things. I hope you find that too.
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