Posted by rskontos on October 17, 2007, at 21:23:47
In reply to Re: oh boy » Dory, posted by DAisym on October 17, 2007, at 20:10:30
Dory, I agree with DAisym about you thinking you are not worth him caring. My therapist and I don't have a real bond like yours yet I believe she wants to help me or else I wouldn't go back. My not being bonded to her I feel is all me not her. She is trying to break through to me I am resistance due to years of feeling this way. Could this be your problem as well. Years of feeling that no one cares so why would him. And if he does care do you need to care back? No it isn't the same caring. I think it is a caring of the professional calling nature. I mean, let me see if I can explain this. Therapists want to help their patients. It is a calling. Think about the long hours, the emotional drain patients or whatever you want to call us can be, how to juggle their own issues with the issues of others, it can be a tough way to go through life too. So why would any of them do it. Because that is way they are. They want to help. Now, in your case. You are a good person that needs help. He is responding to you. You toohave connected. The issues you are having are your issues that is getting in the way. You need to meet him and trust him but trust yourself too. This is hard. I understand because I have the trust issues too. Trust, abandonment, feeling like no one can love us, that is what you are struggling with and wondering why would this T feel anything for me. Well because you are a good, caring person who deserves someone to care for them. Believe it, it is true, you give you your own words back be kind to yourself. Do this by beginning to believe you are worthy of caring for. I think that is first step to healing. Take the first step. Please.......believe in Dory....I do. rk
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