Posted by DAisym on October 17, 2007, at 20:10:30
In reply to oh boy, posted by Dory on October 17, 2007, at 18:04:06
I'm going to challenge you, but I'm not intending to put you down or make you feel bad.
"why?" -- Is he not a caring man to feel the suffering of another and hurt from it?
If the roles were reversed and someone told you what happened, wouldn't you feel bad (or sad, or outraged) for them?
1-800-rent-a-care is really demeaning, not only for your therapist but for the whole profession. Sure, some of "them" don't really care. But just like nurses or doctors or teachers, I think psychologists and therapists really do care. Otherwise, why on earth would they listen to all the cares and woes of the world, over and over again? There are so many easier ways to make money.
Speaking for myself, I think my therapist's caring is genuine, even if I pay him for his help. Just like I know my feelings for him are real, even if we call it "transference."
I think your question behind the "why?" is "am *I* really worth caring about?" And the answer is -- "yes, you are." So let him. Perhaps if you stop questioning IF he cares, you can let yourself feel the caring and use it to heal. It isn't easy - believe me. It is scary to let someone care about you, almost as scary as caring about them.
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