Posted by Tamar on August 9, 2007, at 20:36:37
In reply to I am so hurt, I told my T I am not coming back, posted by slugdoo on August 6, 2007, at 15:01:42
Sorry you're hurting. I think your T was very insensitive. Sometimes they don't remember what hurts us, and if he was about to go for an EKG, I suspect he wasn't operating at full capacity.
I haven't been here for ages, and I don't know what has been happening between you and your T. But I do remember that you cared for him very much and that he cared for you too, even if he wasn't going to admit it out loud.
I think they follow a script when we ask them about whether they care about us. Your therapist stepped over the boundaries a few times because he cared about you... and it hurts when he redraws those boundaries.
If you are still able to work with him, I'd guess you need to work on why you didn't feel like choosing a memory , why you wanted to talk about your feelings, and why he seemed to put pressure on you. What was he trying to achieve? What did you want to avoid? And how can he keep you feeling safe during this terribly painful work? Maybe you need extra signs that he cares about you - and can he give you that?
Sorry, I'm probably saying all the wrong things. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.
Love,
Tamar
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