Posted by B2chica on July 10, 2007, at 8:28:47
In reply to Re: whats worse for a daughter.... » B2chica, posted by muffled on July 9, 2007, at 20:55:35
i've tried telling him that we shouldn't argue or yell in front of DD, his response is "that's not yelling".. well, technically he isn't blowing a lung or anything but his voice is raised and it's his tone more than anything. in other words, he doesn't think there's anything wrong.
(((((((((antigua))))))))))))
Thank you very much. i think this is very true. i think he's still trying to deal with how to be a father. on the one hand he doens't want his life to change...(no responsibilities other than work)...and i just need more than that now. but when i bring that up he starts saying things like "don't even TALK to me about having another one then..."' (meaning another child) this makes me very sad.and i wish counseling could be an option, he doens't think anything is wrong. if there's a problem "it's mine, not his" so he shouldn't have to go (and this is his opinion not mine btw)
and i do hope that DD will see that he Overreacts to things...but only if she understands that this is not appropriate.and you are SO right Antigua...i do need rest. i think it's all finally starting to run me down....i just can't get enough sleep. i can't even get back exercising, all i'd want is a simple 20 min/day walking....i can't.
((((Muffled))))
ya, still seeing T but i can only afford to see her once a month. i do want to discuss this with her, but i do have some other stuff too that i really need to cover. i wish i could afford to see her more. and the baby stuff is hard...but not as hard as trying to care for her needs AND all the rest: hubby's needs, and bills, and housework and dinners, and working full-time. its everything else that i need help with but no one seems to want to help. i swear he still acts like he's 20 and he's almost 40! i wish he'd realize that life is no longer about working then coming home and not doing anything else. i guess it makes me angry but also jealous that he's still got that 'care-free' life. work hard during day then nothing but play at night.
and i wish i did have friends with babies. i do have a sis n law that has one a little older than mine. and it's great to talk, but she doens't live in the same town so its basically email.
and muffled, you always seem to make me feel bit better bout things. thank U.
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