Posted by antigua3 on July 9, 2007, at 15:44:27
In reply to whats worse for a daughter...., posted by B2chica on July 9, 2007, at 11:08:09
Please don't underestimate the stress both physically and mentally that having a child can put you under. It really can mess with the relationships, too, especially in the beginning when husbands can be jealous and take it out on the mother. I know it happened to me, but through talking to others and reading, I know many others experience this.
My husband is after me all the time about me not making enough money. I've learned with help that it's better if I don't engage in his harranging. "sorry you feel that way, but I don't" is a constant response from me. I've found that if I don't engage, he backs off.
Maybe counseling? And meds should be a real option before you feel too bad and head deep into that black hole.
It can take a whole year for our bodies to recover from giving birth, so don't be too hard on yourself. Your daughter is so young, and you will do a great job with her. Even if she sees her father behaving this way when she grows up, she'll catch on--my kids certainly did. The never ending comments over money make him look bad!
Just my experience. Try to get some rest,
antigua
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