Posted by muffled on July 9, 2007, at 13:24:15
In reply to Re: whats worse for a daughter...., posted by B2chica on July 9, 2007, at 11:38:51
> > maybe seeking help so that the fighting and yelling stops is an option?..
> > Frida
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> thanks frida but he doens't think there's anything wrong...he's very loving but also very childish and argumentative. i'm hoping that as finances get better (hopefully) then so will the arguments..right now that's mostly what they're about. i can't stand it...and i'm tired of fighting with him. i feel like i've already F(*&Cked up motherhood 101.**you so haven't screwed up, your thinking of your child. Thats a GOOD mom!
> the simplist thing is a safe home zone...it's not non stop...but too often for my taste. and i swear he often provokes arguments. i think he likes getting me riled up sometimes. cuz it seems like once i finally "go off" then he's almost happy. and gets calm.
**definately seems to some dynamic going on there...
Is there anything you can do to not get hooked in somehow?> my T thinks he might be BPD?? i never thought of him as that as it was always me with the 'issues'. but the closer i look. the more i am agreeing...
> what i hate most is it's bringing back all the horrible memories of 'fight's' growing up.**we all got our sh*t, cuz no family is perfect. You just have to do the best you can with yours, its all you can do. And itas seems to be just what your doing. Good.
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> ...one more mess of memories i could Really do without.
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> its starting to wear me down. i was hoping i would do well enough off meds...but at this rate, i'll be back on them in a couple months. this weekend was pretty bad.**Just being a Mom is HARD. Its a huge change. Life is SO different with a baby, and often very tiring.
> ...i'm sorry my daughter has such a f&#ked up mom...(tear).**Oh MAN B2, I have a feeling your gonna be a great (but NOT perfect) Mom.
You love your kid, you thinking of her, your watching out for her, and you watching out for yourself so that you can care for her.
You doing all the right stuff.
Hope you can somehow work stuff out with your man. Dunno what to say bout that cuz theres so many variables...
Your on the ball B2, your gonna do OK.
M
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